Sunday, 22 March 2009

Do You a Good Neighbour?

Most of people have neighbour. Neighbour are people living close to one's house and thus are people seen around that particular area.

There are many different views concerning neighbours. Some society are particular about the type of neighbours they have. However, there are societies that prefer to live apart in order to preserve their privacy. generally, most people prefer to have neighbours. To be a good neighbour, certain social skills must be cultivated.

Good neighbour often help each other. If have a some problems and we need for help, the person who living closest to our house is the easier to call. To be a good neighbour, one should be willing to help.

Beig neighbourly also need to respect the needs of the people living near you. This would include providing a conductive living environment. As you would ask others to keep their place clean, you should also make sure that yours place is clean also. If you want others to stay relatively quiet, you also must to do the same.

Good neighbours are those who are friends and not only acquaintances. Being friends tends to solve more problems than being mere neighbours. This is one of the reasons why people choose to live in areas where they have friends. Having friends as neighbours is a sure way of creating a safe environment to live in.

It is true that finding conducive and satisfactory neighbourhood to live in is often difficult. It is difficult to expect perfection from the people living nearby. BAut, it could help if people can love their neighbour as their love themself.

Parent Shouldn't Take Away Their Child's Best Friend for Being Different

Parents, siblings and all other relationships in a child’s life are predetermined when they get the first glimpse of this world. But a friend is someone they have the liberty to choose. It is something about which a person can not be calculative. Friendship is a term that encapsulates a bunch of emotions in it. Every child develops own perspective about friendship. For some, a friend is a support in those bothersome moments and some share secrets with them. Hence it should be a matter of individual discretion, even for a child whom he wants to be palls with. Inspite of the fact that parents are the best guides of a child, at times they become overprotective about their child’s choice of friends and freeze the natural flow of the innocent spirit of friendship. So parents should not interfere when the kid is moving towards a self-chosen friendship.

I understand that parents are often very protective of who befriends their children, but they should be open to allowing their kids to choose their own friends, without their interference. Additionally, parents have no reason to fear if their child befriends a classmate or a neighbour of a different ethnic, linguistic or religious background, or kids from single-parent homes. If anything, getting accustomed to these differences at a young age will make sure that the child feels much more comfortable embracing diversity of all sorts.

No parent should take away their child's friend unless the friend is harming the child in some way. Children should be left to make their own friends. They should be left to discover who they think is worthy of being their friend, not who the parents think is worthy.

If a parent constantly rules a child by telling them who is and isn't worthy of the child's friendship then the child will never make their own decisions and it could have a negative effect on the child. Children should be raised to accept people for who they are. It would be unfair of the parents to deprive their child of someone who is a good friend simply because the parents feel that the friend isn't good enough.

At a young age, children do not see differences in the same way that adults do. mainly because they have not yet come into contact with prejudice, or have not come to understand the tensions between different groups. Kids also have a real talent for seeing beyond these differences.

Popular are Always Right

Many people are dreaming to be popular. But, does popular always right? Popular can be right if we are talking about making a popular decision. Surely a popular decision would serve the populous and therefore, even if it were morally or ethically wrong, because it was in that sense popular, it is right.

Popular original meaning in Old French is 'of the people'. Is it possible that a popular choice or a popular decision could be wrong. Yes, but surely if it pleases most of the people and the people make the decision whether something is right and wrong, then it can't really be unpopular or wrong. What I'm saying is that since humans create a sense of right or wrong and they together make something popular or not, surely popular can be right all the time. Of course, something can be popularly wrong at the same time.

Is a popular person right all the time, no of course not. But other people make that person popular which means that they must be doing something right, so surely they could be counted on to make popular rather than unpopular decisions. As we have already concluded earlier, decisions that are made popularly and serve the people cannot be wrong because they serve the majority and in all societies the majorities rule. That's just the way it is.

Of course, sometimes people make mistakes, many Germans followed Hitler of course, but they apparently didn't know about his plans for the Jews with the Final Solution to the Jewish question. However, at the time, Hitler was very popular and to those who believe in him, he was right. Of course, as soon as you no longer believe in the popular opinion, then you hold yourself outside of societal norms. This can make you fringe, considered dangerous by the norms of society.

A popular person can lose their popularity by making wrong decisions, but they become wrong when a large majority of the people believe them to be wrong.

Thursday, 5 March 2009

On Shooting Star and Wishing


Shooting stars make a spectacular sight in the night sky. I saw one last week, when I was going out eat with a couple of friends. None of us seemed to be able to trace the history behind shooting stars and wishing upon them, so I thought I owe this post to my blog.
Shooting star symbolizes a brief fleeting moment in ones life just like the brief wonder of seeing a shooting star race across the night sky. They can also be a symbol of reaching ones ultimate destiny.

Shooting stars, asteroids, and the movement of the heavenly bodies in the night sky have always fascinated to humans. Some cultures have always had strong beliefs and superstitions in the meaning of shooting stars. Traditionally shooting stars also meant a new birth and changes in ones life and also a wish for a better life.

In old Greece falling stars were believed to be rising or falling human souls. Aristophanes spoke of "souls of poor people, drunkenly walking home after they had dinner at a rich star". According to Jewish and Christian tradition fallen stars reflect fallen angels and demons.

Nowadays, in certain parts of Asia people believe a falling star is a bad omen: the "tears from the moon about the lost sun bride" would predict war, death or demise of a close person. According to more common belief though, it's a good omen, because when one makes a wish when one sees a falling star, the wish will come true.

In Europe at the time when the Greek astronomer Ptolemy's view of the cosmos as a universe of interlocking spheres became the orthodoxy, there was a widely accepted and very poetic explanation for "falling stars" which was entirely consistent with other deeply held beliefs of the time.

It was thought that the gods, overwhelmed with curiosity, would sometimes look at the earth from between the spheres, and that in that instant a star or two might slip through the gap and become visible as a falling or shooting star. Since the gods were clearly peering down at that very moment, it was considered an excellent opportunity to voice one's wishes with the guarantee that the gods would hear them.

This is probably where the idea of wishing on a falling or shooting star comes from.

Personally, I became familiar with the wishing-upon-a-shooting-star-concept because of a Bollywood movie! (No prizes for guessing.) The first time I saw a shooting star was two year ago, at my hometown in Indonesia. It was a fascinating sight, but I can’t remember what I had wished for, so I can’t claim if it came true! ^_^

Wednesday, 4 March 2009

Pets

--> my lovely dogs



I should like to discuss the different kinds of pets which people commonly keep in our country, and why people like to keep them. Fist, however, it is important to define what a pet is. By “pet”, I mean any animal which kept as a companion rather than for security, sport or food.

Without any doubt the most popular in this country are dogs. However, very few Muslims keep them, as they consider them to be ‘haram’ (not allowed) in Islam. Although many families keep dogs as pets, they also use them to guard their houses. Unlike cats, guard dogs have a job to do! Dogs are very intelligent animals, and they see, to become very fond of their owners. It is possible to keep their dogs indoors. The majority however, prefer to keep them outside in dog-houses.

Cats are also very popular pets. There are several reasons why they are so popular; in the first place, they are intelligent enough to recognize their owner and to respond to him. They can also be very affectionate, and enjoy sleeping near people, or even on them, because they are love warm, comfortable places. In many ways, they are like small children- they are playful, quarrelsome and friendly- and this is perhaps why so many people like them. Furthermore, cats are soft, clean creatures, and, if they are properly trained, they can safety be allowed to live indoors.


Probably the third most popular kind of pets are fish. In some ways, fish are not true pets, because they can’t recognize their owners. All the same, some people take a lot of care of their fish and spend a lot of time with them, so I shall consider them as pets. People like fish because there are attractive colors and shapes, and because it is relaxing to watch them swim around in their aquarium.

There are, of course have many other kinds of pet, but I think that these three are the most popular in this part of the world. As for my self, I would like to keep dogs as my pet; they always together with me whether I was sad, or happy. They never ran away from me. But, my lovely dog was died a year before because of sick. Because of this, I cried for many days. But, now I have kept other dogs in my home also.

Tuesday, 3 March 2009

Keeping a Relationship Alive Across the Miles

Do you ever try long distance relationship before???? It is so difficult to preserve this love. is no easy task. Those of us who've tried can all attest: IT'S HAAAAAAAAARRRRRRD. Survey showed that 99% of long distance relationship is fail.
Why do long distance relationships fail? Do they have a greater tendency towards failure than “normal” relationships? What are the most common reasons for failure, and what can you do about it?

I’ve read a statistic somewhere a while back that states that long distance relationships actually have a better success rate than normal relationships.
If you and your partner decide to enter a long distance relationship, it means you’re definitely considering having a long term relationship – otherwise you would have just broken up, wouldn’t you?

Still, long distance relationships do sometimes fail. The most common reasons I’ve found are the following:
1. Blaming the distance when there are other problems

2. no long time perspective

Blaming the distance
What do I mean by “blaming the distance”? Well all couples have trouble in their relationships from time to time. It’s completely normal, and if handled correctly, will lead to growth in the relationship.

The problem comes when couples say things like: “We’re fighting all the time because we’re so far apart”, or “It’s just so hard to trust each other when you’re apart”.
for the example, If you can’t trust your partner when you’re apart, you might be also can’t trust your partner when you are together. If you’re afraid your partner will cheat on you just because you’re apart, it means that you don’t have a strong relationship. Distance is not the culprit here. All is not lost yet. You can still work on strengthening your relationship even if you’re apart.

No long time perspective
How many times do you hear people complaining on forums that it will be two years (or three years, or eleven months…) before they will be together again and they don’t think they can handle it?
Consider your time here as an investment. You’re investing two years of your life in order for you to be with the person of your dreams for the rest of your life. I’m assuming again that you actually have a long time plan in your relationship. Let’s say you’re apart for two years, and you’ll be together for at least another 50 years after that. It’s a 25 times return on investment.

If you can preserve this long distance relationship, both of you will be very treasure with your relation.Distance also not be a problem for yours. So, i'm sure that your relationship will be last forever.......^_^

Monday, 2 March 2009

You Like Yourself ????

How many of us look in the mirror and satisfied with what we see? How often have you heard or read of people resorting to expensive weight-loss program just to make them look like celebrity??

Do you remember the old adage “Don’t judge a book by its cover?” we say it so often, but deep down we believe that beautiful things must be good things, less attractive people are imagined to be attractive. Then, somehow attractive people are imagined to be intelligent, confident, and all the things. People will never satisfy with what they have.

So, what do many of us do? We start looking at ourselves and feel unhappy with how we look. Then, we start to develop a negative body image, which is actually a perception of our self-worth, not based on the truth, but what we perceive as the truth. I am also one of people who never satisfy with myself. I never satisfy with my face, with my body, with everything I have. But, when I read some article about it, I feel that I was so stupid. Why should I care about other people perception? I live for myself, not for others. After that, I started to change my mind and my opinion about self satisfaction. Now, I am not care what people talked about me. I am me. Be happy with your body image and who you are. You are live for yourself, not for others. Be confident when you look into the mirror next time and appreciate what you see.

The road to overcoming a negative image is to accept yourself as you are, fat or thin, ugly or pretty. Think about it, what defines ugliness? The world’s perception. Do you want to let the world perception define your self-worth? Make peace with who you are and you will find you are happier person.
^_^

Sunday, 1 March 2009

Heaven or Hell?????




Today, the topic that I will discuss is “Heaven and Hell?” May be you will curious that what am I talking about, Heaven and Hell? Actually in this topic, heaven or hell is representing a marriage. Marriage is an institution in which interpersonal relationships (usually intimate and sexual) are acknowledged by the state, by religious authority, or both. It is often viewed as a contract. Before married, we need to think careful whether both of us is suitable for each other or not. After married, we need use our heart to organize it.Heaven and Hell just like a mirror. It is opposite, if not good, it is bad.

Many man said that “Marriage is hell for them”. But, is it true?? Actually not all the marriage is hell... it just depends of how you organize your marriage.
For an example: there is something happened in their marriage, but both of them just know how to point each other, this marriage will be never least for long time. On the other hand, if both of them realize that it happened already, keep pointing each other also useless. So, they together find the method to solve it. It will be an advantage for their marriage. They together face the problem, it make them more treasure of their marriage.

In fact, successful couples have the same number of disagreements as couples who divorce. Even more interesting, research shows that all couples disagree about the same
basic issues - money, kids, sex, housework, in-laws, and time. The difference between successful and unsuccessful couples is how they handle these differences.
Successful couples disagree in a way that makes their relationship stronger. They also have other skills, knowledge and attitudes that help them build and maintain happiness and satisfaction.
The good news is that anyone can learn to do it better and smarter. Couples can unlearn the behaviors that destroy love and replace them with the behaviors that keep love alive.